5 Ways To Forgive Someone Who Didn't Apologize

Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. It's the ability to not let someone else's wrongdoing to control you and your life. Forgiveness is the ultimate liberator and peace giver. 

Give yourself this gift, you don't need anyone's apology to do this. 

1. Stand in your truth. You know what you went through. You don't need their admission or validation of what happened. 

2. Don't say "it's okay" when it's not. Allow yourself to feel the full pain of what they did. Their inability to apologize doesn't mean it was okay. You decide that. 

3. Don't keep the door open for the people who consistently hurt you. Part of holding them accountable is about you drawing boundaries and taking their access to you. 

4. Don't allow them to gaslight you into thinking that it's all in your head or you're too sensitive. If it hurts, it hurts. Someone who cares about you validates your feelings without shaming you. 

5. Understand that forgiving them doesn't depend on their apology. Forgiving them means that they hold no control over you anymore. It means that you see them as humans who have treated you from their own level of maturity and awareness. Your ability to see that takes the power of them over you.