Trade Minds

Trade minds with the people you want to influence. When you put yourself in the place or shoes of the other paty, you'll see that there is much to learn from their perspective and ideas. You cannot live and make plans about the future with people in it with just your ideas and enthusiasm, you need the bird's eye view of what's going on in other people's lives and minds. 

Be and get relatable to people's quests and ideas and ways of living. When you get an idea of how people would want to talk and behave, you have a chance to make the best if the situation. And most of all, control it. 

And when you relate to the people you talk to, they see as an ally and be more close to you.